Monday, August 16, 2010

Living here

I've been doing my best not to think about infertility or babies or assisted conception.  For too long I swallowed myself up in all the things this world had to offer and now that I've been spat out the wrong end of the IVF-machine I've taken some time to process everything solo.

3 things that have been helping me process
  1. Copious amounts of wine. Lovely, delicious, soul-numbing wine. I'm pretty sure I'm not an alcoholic but I'm sure as hell using wine as a crutch.
  3. I bought my Mum a puppy. Best baby I ever spent money obtaining. The day we got money back from the last failed cycle, I went shopping with her.  She'd been depressed, suicidal, feeling alone and terribly affected by the Cham.pix she took to help her give up smoking.  So while she was taking to steps to ensure she would have less chance of dying from a smoking-related illness she jumped into psychotic death risk with the Cham.pix. She lives alone and since my Grandfather died she'd been travelling up to Sydney every weekend or so, and spending all the holidays there, with her mother. (Who is a cold, crotchety, emotion-sucking grump. Kind of. Mostly she's that way to my Mum and I. Old history. Anyway, is this the longest telling of "why we got a dog" you've ever read or what?) Shortly before my Grandfather died her dog died too. So, no dog at home, no loving father to love and be loved by, spending far too much time away from us and her friends to look after Granny + Cham.pix = head in the gas oven feelings. And she didn't want a new dog.  She said she couldn't bear it. But this one night, this one night we went to the store where she bought her last dog (I hate pet-stores and would never purchase an animal myself from one, but this was her thing and we were only looking anyway) and there was this scruffy little puppy leading her brothers around their big cage in a merry dance.  She had a long strip of paper in her mouth and she was running around madly with 3 or 4 brothers chasing her. Every once in a while she'd look over her shoulder to ensure her pursuers were still on track and then she tossed her tiny head and sped forward. Clever. And so for the next hour I worked at my Mum and convinced her that the dog was perfect and that I would pay and that the dog would make all the difference.  And she has.  For both of us. Who knew I needed puppy-love too?

  4.  Super Mario Galaxy 2.  I love this game. I've never really gotten into computer gaming. In fact after the highs of Pac-Man, Elite star force and some text-based game I used to play back in 1985 I steered clear.  But 3 years ago we got Super Mario Galaxy 1 for Christmas and I was hooked. I played it nightly with my darling - swapping turns star-catching for each other until we'd defeated the evil Bowser and rescued Princess Peach. And last month I bought number 2 and we're getting to do it all over again.  I love the Mario fantasy worlds, I love the escapism and I love the feeling of reward I get after I get a star.  I love the sparkly twinkles everywhere you look, I love the innocuous non-evilness of the bad guys, I love the little twists and turns and changes in direction and perspective.  The game is controllable, achievable and distracting. Perfect.



  1. It's good to hear from you. I've been checking on you a lot. Those three things sound pretty nice. Hugs

  2. Great to see you back here.

    That is one VERY cute puppy! So adorable, I am getting all puppy clucky!

  3. Wine does work!

    I haven't tried Super Mario or a puppy but I have tried online Scrabble and a grumpy old cat. Scrabble works well as an escape and the cat is my furry baby. I do pick him up and cuddle him like a baby sometimes. Unfortunately he usually bites me!

  4. High-Five for all the be away from all things TTC is such a calming thought!

    Enjoy the game and wine, and pup is gorgeous!

  5. Ooooooh....puppy! There's no love like that from a sweet puppy.

    Oh, and wine. Nom.


  6. Hey Y-O-U! So happy for a new post and that you're doing some things that make your heart happy. I mean, what can't wine and a little Mario Bros. not fix?! ;) Oh, and the puppy, wow, she is a little darling! If your mom has any reason to get rid of her, please ship her to the States! She looks like trouble with a capital T with those ears! And, yes, it sucks being spat out the wrong end of the IVF machine, but doing things that make you feel better will heal your heart a little each day. All my best to you (and keep posting! We've missed you)! ♥

  7. Controllable? Achievable? Distracting? I know what my next purchase is.

    And I'm SO GLAD that you bought the puppy, who is adorable in that photo as well as in the description. I think it's brilliant and can only imagine that it's made a night and day difference for your mom (and for yourself). Dog love = some of the best love out there.

    Amen for wine.

  8. Hooray for wine, puppies, and absorbing distractions! I've been thinking of you and hoping the sun shines warmly on you these days.

  9. Great to hear an update. And DEAR LORD, the cuteness of that puppy! I say nothing wrong with a little medicinal application of wine...e

  10. Hey there Pundie. Let me start by saying thank you for your words of support. They honestly mean so much. Now...that Pup is friggin' ADORABLE! What a cutie-pahtootie. Dogs are a cure all. I'm convinced. I also concur that wine is a strong second to canine affection. ;)
    Gaming is a great escape. I have been obsessed with "Angry Birds" on my's a sick obsession. lol.

  11. Hi Pundelina!

    I am in love with that pup. I've been thinking of you a bit and wanted to just say hello again. Also, I think I lost the entire summer of my 25th year to Super Mario, so I really understand how fun that can be. Controllable and distracting are amazing things.


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