Thursday, July 8, 2010


I have to re-frame my focus and I'm not sure how.


  1. So sorry that you are in that frame...

    Counselling? A Vacation? New Hobby? A Short Break from all-TTC?

    Hope you can figure it out....

    Take Care.

  2. Yeah...I think what you're going through is incredibly hard. Unfathomable hard. I can't even wrap my brain around it. I mean, though I've come to terms with the fact that my journey might take me to a similar place, there's no way someone who hasn't arrived there (by which I just mean the end of the IVF road, as you put it) is going to really be able to conceptualize it. But I do know you're not alone, both in the sense that those of us who have come to know you are still here to support you, and in the sense that there are a depressing number of women who have also reached the end of that road. Maybe their stories would be informative.

  3. My heart is breaking for you...

    Big, HUGE ((HUGS))

  4. I just don't know either, Pundelina. I think the main thing is just to accept that everything sucks right now, but that things will get better. Easier said than done, I know, but there's something to be said for giving up on trying to 'think positively', 'snap out of it', 'move on', or any of those other useless tortures.

    I think Bunny has great advice here, and that you can probably get some help and support from other people who are also at the end of the IVF road.

    And in the meantime, I don't think you should have to do ANYTHING with yourself.

  5. I don't even know how to comprehend what you are feeling. I don't know how to support you. I don't know what to say. I don't know how to begin to regain a focus. This probably doesn't give me a fraction of an idea where you are right now.

    I am new here after reading your thoughtful comments around town. Perhaps consider basking in your friends. You have so many people who care about you. You care about them too and it shows.

    Put yourself in The Taking Chair and let your friends care for you. You are in excellent hands. This community is amazing.

  6. The song says it all. I'm so sorry. Sometimes I wonder if my energy (at low tide) in all of this comes from my fighting against...a sort of siege mentality. I'm not sure how I would be able to rebuild the part of me that was here before the fight.

    You don't deserve this. Not remotely. You deserve sunshine and flowers and, above all, a baby with tBG. Pisses me off no end that you are here.

  7. I have no advice here only sympathy. I hope you find a way to refocus. When you do please share as I'm sure I'll need it too. Hugs.

  8. I don't have any insight to offer either. Just another witness to your wholly undeserved pain.

  9. I wish there was some manual to this stuff.
    Maybe connecting with others who have finished treatments would be helpful...or maybe you need a complete change of scenery.
    Thinking of you, and wishing you the best while you try and find a new focus.

  10. I am heartbroken for you and with you. I am just so sorry and hoping that a path lights up before you and leads you to a brighter spot. You deserve so much more and this is so unfair.

  11. Just thinking about you and hope you are doing well.


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